Dorothea Dandridge PAYNE
- Born: 20 May 1768, Guilford Co., NC
- Marriage: James MADISON 15 Sep 1794, Harewood, Jefferson Co., VA
- Died: 12 Jul 1849, Washington, D.C. at age 81
Another name
for Dorothea was First Lady Of The United States DOLLEY.
General
Notes:
Dolley Payne Todd Madison
For half a century she was the most important woman in the social circles of
America. To this day she remains one of the best known and best loved ladies of
the White House--though often referred to, mistakenly, as Dorothy or Dorothea.
She always called herself Dolley, and by that name the New Garden Monthly
Meeting of the Society of Friends, in Piedmont, North Carolina, recorded her
birth to John and Mary Coles Payne, settlers from Virginia. In 1769 John Payne
took his family back to his home colony, and in 1783 he moved them to
Philadelphia, city of the Quakers. Dolley grew up in the strict discipline of
the Society, but nothing muted her happy personality and her warm heart.
John Todd, Jr., a lawyer, exchanged marriage vows with Dolley in 1790. Just
three years later he died in a yellow-fever epidemic, leaving his wife with a
small son. By this time Philadelphia had become the capital city. With her charm
and her laughing blue eyes, fair skin, and black curls, the young widow
attracted distinguished attention. Before long Dolley was reporting to her best
friend that "the great little Madison has asked...to see me this evening."
Although Representative James Madison of Virginia was 17 years her senior, and
Episcopalian in background, they were married in September 1794. The marriage,
though childless, was notably happy; "our hearts understand each other," she
assured him. He could even be patient with Dolley's son, Payne, who mishandled
his own affairs--and, eventually, mismanaged Madison's estate.
Discarding
the somber Quaker dress after her second marriage, Dolley chose the finest of
fashions. Margaret Bayard Smith, chronicler of early Washington social life,
wrote: "She looked a Queen...It would be absolutely impossible for any one to
behave with more perfect propriety than she did." Blessed with a desire to
please and a willingness to be pleased, Dolley made her home the center of
society when Madison began, in 1801, his eight years as Jefferson's Secretary of
State. She assisted at the White House when the President asked her help in
receiving ladies, and presided at the first inaugural ball in Washington when
her husband became Chief Executive in 1809.
Dolley's social graces made
her famous. Her political acumen, prized by her husband, is less renowned,
though her gracious tact smoothed many a quarrel. Hostile statesmen, difficult
envoys from Spain or Tunisia, warrior chiefs from the west, flustered
youngsters--she always welcomed everyone. Forced to flee from the White House by
a British army during the War of 1812, she returned to find the mansion in
ruins. Undaunted by temporary quarters, she entertained as skillfully as ever.
At their plantation Montpelier in Virginia, the Madisons lived in pleasant
retirement until he died in 1836. She returned to the capital in the autumn of
1837, and friends found tactful ways to supplement her diminished income. She
remained in Washington until her death in 1849, honored and loved by all. The
delightful personality of this unusual woman is a cherished part of her
country's history. Lived: 1768-1849
Dorothea married James MADISON, son
of James MADISON and Eleanor Rose CONWAY, on 15 Sep 1794 in Harewood, Jefferson
Co., VA. (James MADISON was born on 16 Mar 1751 in Montpelier, Orange Co., VA
and died on 28 Jun 1836 in Harewood, Charlestown, Jefferson Co., VA.)
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